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US Mall 1 - Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl-A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship
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Manufacturer: Adams Media
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Binding: Paperback
Dewey Decimal Number: 646.77
EAN: 9781580627566
ISBN: 1580627560
Label: Adams Media
Manufacturer: Adams Media
Number Of Items: 1
Number Of Pages: 272
Publication Date: 2002-10-01
Publisher: Adams Media
Studio: Adams Media
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Summary: Outstanding!
Comment: As a man, I can say with confidence that Ms. Argov has truly looked into my soul, for I do love the bitches - bitches and hos.
Customer Rating:
Summary: Missing half of the equation in relationship
Comment: The book should be retitled "Why FEMININE Men Love Bitches" because much of this advice, if you follow it, is a sure-fired way to become "just friends" with a good masculine energy man. Understand that the book is trying to raise a woman's self-esteem--and by all means, pick up a copy if you're new to relationship advice or want to learn a little bit about the mind of some men--but the assumptions the author makes for how we should actually behave based on "what men want" isn't accurate. It also clearly assumes a caliber of men that is lower than some of us have or want.
This book only covers one half of the equation: making a woman strong on the inside, which, yes, is absolutely necessary for a healthy relationship--if she understands where her strength as a woman comes from (this book does not provide that depth of information). But the true appeal and attraction of a woman to a man is that she is soft, she is feminine. And the way a strong woman achieves this is that her inner core is so strong, she can allow herself to follow and trust a man without losing herself. There is nothing more attractive.
The author tells women to be "logical" and don't express emotions, that men don't respond well to feelings. But this couldn't be further from the truth. Men don't like drama but they love a feeling woman. This IS a woman's mystery, that she can lead him into that realm of relationship and being. This is what men chase after, not the woman's behavior, not her "personality," but her femininity. Following all these do's and don'ts of this book would not only be exhausting but confusing and easy to forget (any when you do, you'll inevitably beat yourself up, putting you right back to where you don't want to be with your self-esteem). Men are chasing a woman's mystery, but that mystery is embedded in her femininity. What men want is the spirituality of the feminine energy (Carl Young, Aspects of the Feminine). This ironically, is also a woman's boundaries. Not her "independence." It's a shallow perspective on "the chase." Again, maybe with some men, but not with the ones we want.
I know from my own amazing relationship with a very strong man I fell head over heels for years ago, that the only way you, as a woman, will feel really good and natural about yourself is: letting go of controlling others, expressing your vulnerability, grounding yourself in self-control (contrary to our belief, it is not our man but our self-love that is the hardest thing to master).
Let's be honest. Do you really want to "control" your relationship? Isn't his affection, adoration, and commitment what you really want? Deep down, what you want is really for him to WANT YOU. This book, even though it comes across as about "self-respect" is really attempting to show you how you can make him want you--but by appealing with fear instead of real attraction. It's just not accurate, not for a good man anyway. The author makes the assumption that women need to be respected by being IN CONTROL. The problem is, feminine energy women (which is most of us) feel "respected" when their FEELINGS ARE CHERISHED, not when they lead or control. In fact, we feel miserable when we try to control. We realize we can be in control but the trade off is that our feelings are not cherished. If you want to be "respected" like that tough "police woman" the author seems to admire so much, you'll get respect. But you won't get the love of a masculine man. And that is worth everything on earth.
Take what you read in this book with a grain of salt unless you want to attract a feminine energy man or be your man's mom. There's a reference to Aretha's song, R-E-S-P-E-C-T, as if this is how we need to act. But really think about it, doesn't that sound like your mother? That is not the attitude of a strong, feminine energy woman. You want a man to want to be with you because you inspire him to cherish you, not because he is afraid of you or your independence. A feminine woman respects her man, and in turn, a good man cherishes her. That's the formula. If he doesn't cherishes her, she lets him know without making him wrong, without disrespect. And believe me, this woman will steal the heart of your man any day over a "bitch." This is the woman men will walk through fire for. Because she is strong within, at the same time, vulnerable, and exotically feminine on the outside. That's the missing half of the equation. I give "Why Men Marry Bitches" two stars for trying.
Customer Rating:
Summary: Thank everything that is good in this world for Sherry Argov.
Comment: Wow. This book changed. my. life. And NOT because it helped me catch a man. To the contrary.. it made me open my eyes and realize that I was treating having a man as the be-all end-all of my existence. It made me realize I needed to focus on MYSELF and making myself happy. And only after I loved myself and had a life of my own, would a man feel he could be with me.
She's a very smart woman. I recommend this book VERY much.
Customer Rating:
Summary: Beyond the Rules
Comment: Argov goes beyond "the Rules" and dispenses some much-needed advice to a lot of women.
There is a fine line between being in the driver's seat and allowing the man to believe that he is. It is not so much a matter of being in control as it is a matter of achieving a workable dynamic between the sexes.
Argov delves into button-pushing and the things men do to test the mettle of women. Staying calm, cool, and collected is highly advisable, including in the board room at the office. Deep down most women know this, yet it can quickly go out the window when it seems that men "just don't get it", are tuning out, or are shutting down altogether as matters reach the meltdown stage.
The author spares nothing as she reveals the tactics of the male player. It is better to cringe your way through this section than to stay uninformed and vulnerable.
Argov's insights are empowering for women. Male players may not appreciate this, but for quality men that want workable relationships with women, it will ultimately benefit both sexes for women to digest and apply these premises.
Customer Rating:
Summary: A Must have for the Single Woman
Comment: This book is amazing. Once I read it, I passed it on to the other single women in my life. The techniques in this book really do work. I highly reccomend this book to anyone, i liked it so much that i plan to read it again.
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Customer Rating:
Summary: Outstanding!
Comment: As a man, I can say with confidence that Ms. Argov has truly looked into my soul, for I do love the bitches - bitches and hos.
Customer Rating:
Summary: Missing half of the equation in relationship
Comment: The book should be retitled "Why FEMININE Men Love Bitches" because much of this advice, if you follow it, is a sure-fired way to become "just friends" with a good masculine energy man. Understand that the book is trying to raise a woman's self-esteem--and by all means, pick up a copy if you're new to relationship advice or want to learn a little bit about the mind of some men--but the assumptions the author makes for how we should actually behave based on "what men want" isn't accurate. It also clearly assumes a caliber of men that is lower than some of us have or want.
This book only covers one half of the equation: making a woman strong on the inside, which, yes, is absolutely necessary for a healthy relationship--if she understands where her strength as a woman comes from (this book does not provide that depth of information). But the true appeal and attraction of a woman to a man is that she is soft, she is feminine. And the way a strong woman achieves this is that her inner core is so strong, she can allow herself to follow and trust a man without losing herself. There is nothing more attractive.
The author tells women to be "logical" and don't express emotions, that men don't respond well to feelings. But this couldn't be further from the truth. Men don't like drama but they love a feeling woman. This IS a woman's mystery, that she can lead him into that realm of relationship and being. This is what men chase after, not the woman's behavior, not her "personality," but her femininity. Following all these do's and don'ts of this book would not only be exhausting but confusing and easy to forget (any when you do, you'll inevitably beat yourself up, putting you right back to where you don't want to be with your self-esteem). Men are chasing a woman's mystery, but that mystery is embedded in her femininity. What men want is the spirituality of the feminine energy (Carl Young, Aspects of the Feminine). This ironically, is also a woman's boundaries. Not her "independence." It's a shallow perspective on "the chase." Again, maybe with some men, but not with the ones we want.
I know from my own amazing relationship with a very strong man I fell head over heels for years ago, that the only way you, as a woman, will feel really good and natural about yourself is: letting go of controlling others, expressing your vulnerability, grounding yourself in self-control (contrary to our belief, it is not our man but our self-love that is the hardest thing to master).
Let's be honest. Do you really want to "control" your relationship? Isn't his affection, adoration, and commitment what you really want? Deep down, what you want is really for him to WANT YOU. This book, even though it comes across as about "self-respect" is really attempting to show you how you can make him want you--but by appealing with fear instead of real attraction. It's just not accurate, not for a good man anyway. The author makes the assumption that women need to be respected by being IN CONTROL. The problem is, feminine energy women (which is most of us) feel "respected" when their FEELINGS ARE CHERISHED, not when they lead or control. In fact, we feel miserable when we try to control. We realize we can be in control but the trade off is that our feelings are not cherished. If you want to be "respected" like that tough "police woman" the author seems to admire so much, you'll get respect. But you won't get the love of a masculine man. And that is worth everything on earth.
Take what you read in this book with a grain of salt unless you want to attract a feminine energy man or be your man's mom. There's a reference to Aretha's song, R-E-S-P-E-C-T, as if this is how we need to act. But really think about it, doesn't that sound like your mother? That is not the attitude of a strong, feminine energy woman. You want a man to want to be with you because you inspire him to cherish you, not because he is afraid of you or your independence. A feminine woman respects her man, and in turn, a good man cherishes her. That's the formula. If he doesn't cherishes her, she lets him know without making him wrong, without disrespect. And believe me, this woman will steal the heart of your man any day over a "bitch." This is the woman men will walk through fire for. Because she is strong within, at the same time, vulnerable, and exotically feminine on the outside. That's the missing half of the equation. I give "Why Men Marry Bitches" two stars for trying.
Customer Rating:
Summary: Thank everything that is good in this world for Sherry Argov.
Comment: Wow. This book changed. my. life. And NOT because it helped me catch a man. To the contrary.. it made me open my eyes and realize that I was treating having a man as the be-all end-all of my existence. It made me realize I needed to focus on MYSELF and making myself happy. And only after I loved myself and had a life of my own, would a man feel he could be with me.
She's a very smart woman. I recommend this book VERY much.
Customer Rating:
Summary: Beyond the Rules
Comment: Argov goes beyond "the Rules" and dispenses some much-needed advice to a lot of women.
There is a fine line between being in the driver's seat and allowing the man to believe that he is. It is not so much a matter of being in control as it is a matter of achieving a workable dynamic between the sexes.
Argov delves into button-pushing and the things men do to test the mettle of women. Staying calm, cool, and collected is highly advisable, including in the board room at the office. Deep down most women know this, yet it can quickly go out the window when it seems that men "just don't get it", are tuning out, or are shutting down altogether as matters reach the meltdown stage.
The author spares nothing as she reveals the tactics of the male player. It is better to cringe your way through this section than to stay uninformed and vulnerable.
Argov's insights are empowering for women. Male players may not appreciate this, but for quality men that want workable relationships with women, it will ultimately benefit both sexes for women to digest and apply these premises.
Customer Rating:
Summary: A Must have for the Single Woman
Comment: This book is amazing. Once I read it, I passed it on to the other single women in my life. The techniques in this book really do work. I highly reccomend this book to anyone, i liked it so much that i plan to read it again.
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