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Manufacturer: Shepherd Press
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Binding: Audio Cassette
EAN: 9780966378658
ISBN: 0966378652
Label: Shepherd Press
Manufacturer: Shepherd Press
Number Of Items: 6
Publication Date: 2001-01
Publisher: Shepherd Press
Studio: Shepherd Press
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Summary: Fantastic Manual for Child-Rearing (not AT ALL a spanking manual!)
Comment: I've read many of the reviews of this text and truly wonder if those who have provided such vehemently negative reviews read the text in its entirety. First and foremost one must recognize that all Christian literature should be held up against the Word of God and should certainly be read and implemented with great discernment.
Some reviewers have stated that this book supports child abuse. How absurd! How then do you explain the very compassionate chapter that speaks to understanding your child and his/her anxieties, disappointments and frustrations? (Chapter 8 of the second edition) The examples of a parent treating child with patience, understanding and compassion far outnumber the spanking instructions.
As for spanking, one review remarked that Tripp advises spanking infants straight from the hospital. I guess those pages were left out of my copy...couldn't find any such advice. Furthermore, the advise for spanking a child in a private location is not to "hide abuse" as one reviewer states. Tripp clearly states "discipline must not rob a child of his dignity." How would an adult like for his/her boss to publically reprimand him/her?
One reviewer was concerned over Tripp's advise to 'remove pants and underpants' to administer the spanking. I think that this person must not have read the entire paragraph. He only advises this measure for children who are still in diapers. Once a child reaches an age where she is potty-trained and responsible for her own hygeine Tripp clearly states that pants should not be removed so 'shame is not caused.'
Realize that the subject of spanking is a small portion of this text. There are 17 other chapters that offer much guidance. The obvious goal of this book is to train parents to foster a relationship of compassion, communication and respect between parent, child and the Lord.
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Summary: A Great Book
Comment: Please remember that the many poor reviews for this book are augmented by web-sites encouraging anti-spankers to post poor reviews for any books that advocate spanking! I will not go into the merits of this book, though there are many, I just wanted to offset some of the poor reviews. This book IS great and both gives Biblical reasons for discipline and practical ways to implement that discilpline: with and without "the rod".
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Summary: if your looking for a fingerpoint book this wont be for you
Comment: this book has been very painful to read. tears streaming down my face i had to confront my own heart issues and my own comfort level. for the first time i saw parenting through the eyes of God and this book will show you yourself in a new light. before using the principles on my children, i have to use them on me. what a blessing. reading this book is so convicting. while reading i felt the rivers of living waters flow from this book. what biblical and godly advice! no matter how much this hits home, i know the Spirit of God has moved this mans heart to write this and open eyes. it will bring you back to the cross and ask for mercy. i thank God for the courage of Tedd to write this book. may He bless him!!! a must read for every christian parent that means real business. not for a quick fix! but a constant growing to become more like Christ. it makes you realize that truly without God this is an impossible task.
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Summary: Small Groups: There are better Christian resources available
Comment: I read the book cover to cover (just in case others who disagree with my review assume that I only skimmed the book). There are great points to glean from this book but overall it was time wasted.
Pros:
*Author is likely a fabulous parent
*His last few chapters regarding teens was very good advice about really talking to and connecting with your child
*Brings attention to being intentional with children and how we help connect our children with the Bible and God. (In many ways...not all)
*Discusses what the parent's heart should look like when discilpining a child.
Cons:
*Author labels grounding, time out, and behavior modification as ungodly methods. (what would you call 40 years wondering in the desert, God used time out.)
*Author labels salvation for children and family worship time as ungodly goals.
*I disagree with the method of spanking the author outlines. I think it is degrading and cruel to pull a child's pants down to spank (especially if the child may have been physically or sexually abused in the past).
Honestly my biggest issue with this book is that the author takes things that he simply disagrees with and labels them as ungodly. I have a huge problem with that. Bringing your child to a place of salvation is not an ungodly goal. The mistake would be to stop there and not teach the child anything after that (this is the idea put forth by the author and I agree with him but to label the thing ungodly is....ungodly)
Customer Rating:
Summary: sick & sad: promotes child abuse
Comment: i don't understand the adoration of this book! while it does address that obedience is not the primary issue (as so many other books do), and focuses on the need to focus on the heart of your child, it misses the mark in a huge way. from endorsing the beating of infants, to a warped view of children in general, from weird theology regarding the role of parents, to the utterly bizarre abusive bare bottom spankings that a small child is to endure without anger or upset, this book is a manual for child abuse and little more. i'm shocked this book is not only sold all over the place, but is given by church leaders to parents upon the births of their children! our children should be given the same respect and mercy that we give to other believers, should be won through love and patience and kindness, not through bullying and beatings.
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Customer Rating:
Summary: Fantastic Manual for Child-Rearing (not AT ALL a spanking manual!)
Comment: I've read many of the reviews of this text and truly wonder if those who have provided such vehemently negative reviews read the text in its entirety. First and foremost one must recognize that all Christian literature should be held up against the Word of God and should certainly be read and implemented with great discernment.
Some reviewers have stated that this book supports child abuse. How absurd! How then do you explain the very compassionate chapter that speaks to understanding your child and his/her anxieties, disappointments and frustrations? (Chapter 8 of the second edition) The examples of a parent treating child with patience, understanding and compassion far outnumber the spanking instructions.
As for spanking, one review remarked that Tripp advises spanking infants straight from the hospital. I guess those pages were left out of my copy...couldn't find any such advice. Furthermore, the advise for spanking a child in a private location is not to "hide abuse" as one reviewer states. Tripp clearly states "discipline must not rob a child of his dignity." How would an adult like for his/her boss to publically reprimand him/her?
One reviewer was concerned over Tripp's advise to 'remove pants and underpants' to administer the spanking. I think that this person must not have read the entire paragraph. He only advises this measure for children who are still in diapers. Once a child reaches an age where she is potty-trained and responsible for her own hygeine Tripp clearly states that pants should not be removed so 'shame is not caused.'
Realize that the subject of spanking is a small portion of this text. There are 17 other chapters that offer much guidance. The obvious goal of this book is to train parents to foster a relationship of compassion, communication and respect between parent, child and the Lord.
Customer Rating:
Summary: A Great Book
Comment: Please remember that the many poor reviews for this book are augmented by web-sites encouraging anti-spankers to post poor reviews for any books that advocate spanking! I will not go into the merits of this book, though there are many, I just wanted to offset some of the poor reviews. This book IS great and both gives Biblical reasons for discipline and practical ways to implement that discilpline: with and without "the rod".
Customer Rating:
Summary: if your looking for a fingerpoint book this wont be for you
Comment: this book has been very painful to read. tears streaming down my face i had to confront my own heart issues and my own comfort level. for the first time i saw parenting through the eyes of God and this book will show you yourself in a new light. before using the principles on my children, i have to use them on me. what a blessing. reading this book is so convicting. while reading i felt the rivers of living waters flow from this book. what biblical and godly advice! no matter how much this hits home, i know the Spirit of God has moved this mans heart to write this and open eyes. it will bring you back to the cross and ask for mercy. i thank God for the courage of Tedd to write this book. may He bless him!!! a must read for every christian parent that means real business. not for a quick fix! but a constant growing to become more like Christ. it makes you realize that truly without God this is an impossible task.
Customer Rating:
Summary: Small Groups: There are better Christian resources available
Comment: I read the book cover to cover (just in case others who disagree with my review assume that I only skimmed the book). There are great points to glean from this book but overall it was time wasted.
Pros:
*Author is likely a fabulous parent
*His last few chapters regarding teens was very good advice about really talking to and connecting with your child
*Brings attention to being intentional with children and how we help connect our children with the Bible and God. (In many ways...not all)
*Discusses what the parent's heart should look like when discilpining a child.
Cons:
*Author labels grounding, time out, and behavior modification as ungodly methods. (what would you call 40 years wondering in the desert, God used time out.)
*Author labels salvation for children and family worship time as ungodly goals.
*I disagree with the method of spanking the author outlines. I think it is degrading and cruel to pull a child's pants down to spank (especially if the child may have been physically or sexually abused in the past).
Honestly my biggest issue with this book is that the author takes things that he simply disagrees with and labels them as ungodly. I have a huge problem with that. Bringing your child to a place of salvation is not an ungodly goal. The mistake would be to stop there and not teach the child anything after that (this is the idea put forth by the author and I agree with him but to label the thing ungodly is....ungodly)
Customer Rating:
Summary: sick & sad: promotes child abuse
Comment: i don't understand the adoration of this book! while it does address that obedience is not the primary issue (as so many other books do), and focuses on the need to focus on the heart of your child, it misses the mark in a huge way. from endorsing the beating of infants, to a warped view of children in general, from weird theology regarding the role of parents, to the utterly bizarre abusive bare bottom spankings that a small child is to endure without anger or upset, this book is a manual for child abuse and little more. i'm shocked this book is not only sold all over the place, but is given by church leaders to parents upon the births of their children! our children should be given the same respect and mercy that we give to other believers, should be won through love and patience and kindness, not through bullying and beatings.
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